As a healer, she is supposed to be able to heal the wounds that people inflict on each other, but the wounds women have inflicted on the Iron Warrior are so deep, and so painful, that she feels powerless. If he were a child, she would hold him close and tell him it would be all right. But he is not a child, and because the wounds inflicted are to his heart, words alone will not make everything better. She knows trust doesn't happen overnight, and that if he is to trust her, she will have to be patient and allow trust to grow at its own pace, little by little.
What little she has to offer him, she offers with no strings. If he wishes to come to her, she will accept him with open arms, if he decides that trusting her with his heart is too dangerous, she will accept that and remain true to the friendship they have. She leaves these options for him alone to choose, and in the meantime, she continues to care for him as she would any male in her family. For he will forever be a part of her family. He spoke for her when she came to camp, and that alone is enough for her to put him in a place above others. She trusts him with her life, children and possessions, and nothing short of absolute betrayal would change her assessment of the man himself.